Tickling perplexes me
From the mailbag:
I’m writing tonight to see if you would be interested in leading me into an exploration of my sensitivity to being tickled. I am extremely ticklish, especially in the areas that should be more erotic (ie; my balls and nipples)- to the point that it has interfered with normal sex. I have a love/hate relationship with the sensation (actaully mostly FEAR!)but I find it is time to face it, and see how it is a part of me. It’s not your normal S&M scene, I know, but if this is the sort of bondage/sm scene you can work with, I’d love to meet with you.
That is outside my usual fare. Whether I can work with it or not depends on a couple of things. I usually prefer that my subjects enjoy what’s happening to them. They express pleasure in a variety of ways — I just don’t like (but always respect) having done something inappropriate, and if I don’t like the response I get, I lose interest.
If you’re looking to have your sensitivity exploited/abused, that’s one thing. If you’re hoping to become desensitized by inflicting pain, that’s something else. The difference is subtle to me but important to you, and your reactions would determine my approach.
It’s not too surprising that I didn’t get a further response, but I’m okay with that. It’s not the first time someone approached me with a tickling proposal but I have yet to actually do this kind of scene. It would be fairly easy for me to set one up, but I’d rather not set myself up for a scene that I won’t enjoy (and by extension, neither will he). It’s about quality, not quantity.