“You’re the first white man…”
“You’re the first white man to ever fuck me.” -D
I’m accustomed to providing first-time experiences: first time getting tied up, first time taking something large and insertable… It’s only natural, I suppose, that I eventually participate in someone’s first interracial scene.
Race, age, size… most physical characteristics have never meant much to me. What has always mattered most is how someone reacts to what I do. Some of the hottest experiences I’ve ever had have been with people that I would not have picked up in a bar setting. All too often, we get caught up in what someone looks like without paying attention to what they feel like, and how they make you feel.
I still have to deal with their physicality, of course. Older men may not be able to remain in a standing position as long as younger men. Larger men sometimes have less overall energy. I’ve never noticed much of a difference among races, except perhaps certain mannerisms (which I attribute to individual personality) and those are rarely important while a scene is in progress.
So to have someone tell me, “You’re the first white man to ever fuck me,” while I’m in the midst of doing exactly that… it threw me for a moment. What is the proper response to that? It would feel patronizing if I returned a “you’re the first” compliment, and I would feel worse if whatever I came up with wasn’t remotely true in the first place. It would be too distracting to pursue the topic further. The best I could do is make a good first impression on behalf of all white men everywhere.
You’re welcome.